Good morning, Saethydd:
May I likewise express my sympathy regarding this difficult time both you and family are experiencing.
Adding to my thoughts posted on your earlier thread, it is important to take the high road. My mate and I were hard on our child who refused to conform to the Society's ways. As I wrote you, we woke up and let our kid stay. No meetings, no participation in family study, etc.
My point is that our child has been the sane, loving, and forgiving one. JW parents can be so blind to where the fault really lies. The entire blame is placed on the one leaving. Thirty years later, we have a great relationship with our child.
Blessings and peace.